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Soiling and smearing poop: Need advice on what I can do
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: May 15, 2023 | Replies (8)Comment receiving replies
OMG....This scares me. I am so worried for what we might have in front of us. Tonight we watched a show about Queen Victoria and Prince Albert and I told my husband of 55 years that it reminded me of us and our love for each other. And then he asked me, "Did we ever get married? This hurt me more than my words can express. I never imagined that we would have to go through this. This is Hell. Unless you have lived through this experience you really can't understand.
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We go through this almost every night when we get into bed! My husband thinks I'm some girlfriend or date! It's so sad, no matter how much I love him and do for him completely on my own. He doesn't know "it's me"!
Even when my husband no longer recognized me, he would ask about me by name. I knew it was still me he loved. If he asked when “she” was coming, I’d just answer, “very soon”. Sometimes I’d say she’s around here somewhere. He’d go through the house calling for me & when he came back into the room, I said “Here I am” and he was content.
Early in the process, I told him that if he ever couldn’t remember me, I hoped he would still like me and he did, often saying “ You’re a good woman.”
So are you, katrina123. He’s doing the best he can and you are too. One day at a time.
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I'm there with you. My husband & I celebrated 50 years in November. But now has Capgras & doesn't know I'm his wife. But he's "come to like me" & "maybe we should get married." So I hear you & feel your pain.