Thank you Theresa..
My 1st advice will be to never stop trying (because I know it’s very hard), to be positive, never loose hope and always work for your recovery. It all starts in your mind and determination BUT don’t have too many expectations because we expect to be perfect and it won’t be posible.
I was told I would never eat again and here I am, I can even eat a hamburger! With difficulties and slowly but I can, and that was unthinkable.
Also what helped me a lot was meditation and breathing, even when I choked I was taught to breath correctly so all the muscles will start to get loose and it really worked most of the times.
In short : mind, body and spirit are important
Mind (being positive and believe in yourself), body (do the therapies and take care of your nutrition) and spirit (meditation, breathing and any kind of higher power).
With my g-tube a person told me something that helped me a lot : don’t hate your tube, I know it hurts and it’s uncomfortable but acknowledge that because of it you are alive and be thankful to it because of that. So turning around some negative feelings to positive changes totally your attitude and therefore the outcome.
Finally… acceptance. This is what life wants you to go through and always for a reason, there is something to learn from that experience, so think and try to learn whatever you think it’s the lesson.
I just want to add that everyday I wake up is a challenge and I never stop being amazed and thankful for my story.
Your comments remind me of a song by Simon and Garfunkel. Part of it goes like this:
In a clearing stands a boxer, and a fighter by his trade,
And he carries a reminder of every glove that laid him down,
Or cut him until he cried out in his anger and his pain,
I am leaving, I am leaving. But the fighter still remains.
I have my first appointment with an oncologist tomorrow morning. The comments from members of this support group have been both alarming, and hopeful. I appreciate each one of you, and pray for you as I pray for myself.