my mom is hallucinating and paranoid. Accusing my father (67 year marriage) of leaving her and having kids with my sister and niece, etc. it is absolutely crazy but that is her reality. She worries and cries so much. So i get this. You have to explain to the kids how to handle this. it isn't your husband there if he wasn't like this before. It is hard on everyone to understand to divert and disengage. You cannot reason with the unreasonable. You cannot argue or try to persuade them. I keep telling my 86 year old father this. he tries to reason with my mom "don't you want to be dry/clean" "i am right here not going anywhere" "there is no one else here" "your parents have been gone for 40+ years". etc. He says she is being unreasonable, or uncooperative. Thisis just her reality. She isn't trying to be difficult. She sees/hears/believes things that are not reality.

Can you sneak meds into some food for breakfast or lunch? grind it secretly and make him eggs and put it into the omelette or soup etc?