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Your dad (the person your dad was) would not want you to have to go through this. Even if he hates it and even if he says he hates you (like a teenager or a toddler would), you need to get all the help you can. Is there an extra bedroom in the home? It may sound far fetched, but if someone else were living there, for free or reduced rent in exchange for helping with your father's care, that may help give you some peace of mind. A classmate? A retired person? Put an advertisement out locally? Where I live, housing is hard to find and expensive, so it wouldn't be very hard to find someone to do this, but where you are things may be different. And you must get past giving so much weight to your dad's opposition to this kind of thing. He is not in his right mind and needs you to make these decisions for him; that's what the POA is for.
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Unfortunately, we are renting this house and the only extra bedroom now is really a storage room for our lifelong memories. I also don't know how I would feel about a stranger living in the house as well as trusting one with my frail father's health. I know there are professionals trained to do these things and I have no idea how much they cost, but I can't imagine that it's cheap!
The stroke was completely unpredicted, of course. So everything that is happening now and the stuff I need to plan for feels like a ton of bricks just fell on top of me. It's confusing, especially not knowing where to start or who to turn to. I've reached out to a local community and health service organization explaining the situation and I will see what they respond with.