Your dad (the person your dad was) would not want you to have to go through this. Even if he hates it and even if he says he hates you (like a teenager or a toddler would), you need to get all the help you can. Is there an extra bedroom in the home? It may sound far fetched, but if someone else were living there, for free or reduced rent in exchange for helping with your father's care, that may help give you some peace of mind. A classmate? A retired person? Put an advertisement out locally? Where I live, housing is hard to find and expensive, so it wouldn't be very hard to find someone to do this, but where you are things may be different. And you must get past giving so much weight to your dad's opposition to this kind of thing. He is not in his right mind and needs you to make these decisions for him; that's what the POA is for.