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Yes, I feel your good vibes. Thank you for the encouragement. A lot of the things you mention are not for me, though. I have never been able to connect well with people. I have mentioned this to my therapist. So I am used to being alone. Although now without my husband there is also loneliness. I am aware that volunteers do great work, but I have shied away from it for two reasons. The first is my inability to connect to other people and the second is that I feel I am too old. At 88 I don't have the stamina. I like to sleep in in the mornings. I move slowly through the day as I get things done. Fortunately I am still able to maintain my independence and will cling to that as long as I can. Also I am a humanist and don't have much use for organized religion. This bothers a lot of people because they don't understand or want to understand. But it makes sense to me and as far I am concerned that's all that counts. I do not like anyone preaching at me. My health otherwise is fairly good and I don't take very much medication so who knows how many more years I might have? I do feel extremely fortunate to still maintain my mind. I will go on YouTube to find John Bradshaw after breakfast. Thank you so much for caring. It means a lot.
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@thisismarilynb - I support the (authentic) John Bradshaw - I saw him on PBS and it was the first time I'd had ANY validation or recognition of my experience from anyone else, and I will never forget it. There are so many self-help books out there (& I have purchased many of them!) but reading them and finding those that are authentic for your experience is another matter.
I may look up John Bradshaw's materials again as they seemed straightforward (as I remember the impact they had then) and that is worth so much.
Continuing to look through / catch up on messages on how your cruise went, so I hope to find them soon.
Hugs.
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You' re welcomed, all just suggestions only... one shoe doesn't fill all. Understandable.how you feel. John Bradshaw doesn't preach thank goodness, just helps to understand. That's all . Best of Luck. The only thing my therapist explained to me that I had to let go of the anger which took me years. That was my personal problem otherwise it would eat me up which almost happen. In my case I found I had to deal with other challenges like loosing a baby, having cancer and most recently dealing with a kidney transplant and surgery which laid me in a hospital for four months. Maybe I adjust grateful and happy to be alive despite what I have experience and challenges was told not to have a pity party. Strange as other have not experience our own personal journey. Easy for them to say right? Walk the walk and then you can talk is my saying. Take care of yourself, yes there are a lot of people who care although we may not know you.