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Spouse not understanding my grieving

Loss & Grief | Last Active: May 18, 2023 | Replies (14)

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Hi I am in the exact same thing my brother passed away in January. Everything for my family been turned upside down . My boyfriend/hubby is sad but he seems to think all grief is the same. Because yes my boyfriend lost his grandparents ,mom, real dad and step dad and friends. My brother was basically the one who did everything for the house he fix everything he drove people everywhere and now without him being here and being passed on I am the one who has to fix things in the house. I don't drive so aleast not having to that takes stress off. But my boyfriend seems to get upset because I am fixing things in the house and upset because my older sister has no idea how to fix things and my mom will be 70 next year and my sister has a boyfriend but he seems to think the same thing that all grief is the same and it being almost 4 months we should be over it now.
I cry so much . I miss him , because for me it's so hard he was my first best friend we did everything together when we were growing up from building snow forts to just everything. And for me it feels like I lost a piece of me when he passed away. I just wish my boyfriend/ hubby understood.

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Thoughts hugs and prayers as you adjust to his relocation to God’s loving arms. As for what happened between my husband and I since the post, my husband was laid off from his job about 2 months after my brother died. Then I had a dear friend unexpectedly die. I survived by making lots of excuses to leave the house . I told my husband that I had aviation students to teach. In reality I was having psychotherapy sessions or just being alone to deal with my emotions. Sometimes I just slept. We also did not discuss my brother or my friend’s passing. To this day, we still do not discuss the passings. You road will be very difficult. At times you will survive minute to minute. Please do find a support group on line. I am with Grief.com on Facebook. I can make posts anytime and people provide support. 🤗🤗🙏