Hopeless and Discouraged, again! Seeking any advice.

Posted by annregister @annregister, Apr 26, 2023

I was diagnosed with sensorimotor Polyneuropathy and small fiber neuropathy. I have tried everything, with really bad side affects. Just today….I went to pain management (1st time) and I was told that it looks like I’ve tried all the “go to” medications. What they suggested was to lose weight, exercise, get my diabetes under control. Well….my primary Dr. took me off of my diabetic meds because he said I had my A1C under control and I would love to get back to my life….walking three miles a day, chasing and teaching first graders, and driving. So now what????? I am out on disability through work but that only last a year. I’m so stressed out. I’m in extreme pain 24/7, in my hands and feet. I don’t know where to go to from here. Why won’t drs. listen instead of making us feel like it’s our fault that we’re sick and in pain? Any advice???? I will listen and try just about anything at this point.

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@mjpm2406

I’m a Marine veteran so I learned to “suck it up” and just live with the pain. I spent 23 months in Vietnam and I was wounded three times (never figured out how to duck) so I’m familiar with pain. But I have a great support system - my wife and three daughters. The tingling in my feet and hands is annoying and sometimes painful but I just deal with it. I guess I have a high pain threshold. When I can no longer drive it will hit me big time. The loss of independence will hurt emotionally. I hope you learn to deal with the pain. Obviously, some days are worse than others.

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Yes, some days are worse than others and I didn’t say a word to anyone about my pain for two years. I just put a smile on my face, worked everyday, came home and cried myself to sleep. Even my husband didn’t know the extent of my pain. I know people are there to help; I just don’t want to be a burden. However, it came to a point that the pain was so severe 24/7 that I couldn’t hide it anymore. And yes, it has killed me to not drive anymore but what has really destroyed me the most is having to walk away from teaching.

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@johnbishop

Hello @annregister, I'm sorry you haven't found much relief for the neuropathy pain from the different treatments you have tried. I also have small fiber PN but only with numbness. I shared my story in another discussion here - Member Neuropathy Journey Stories: What's Yours?: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/comment/310341/.

The Foundation for Peripheral Neuropathy has a pretty comprehensive list of complementary and alternative treatments that might be helpful - https://www.foundationforpn.org/wp-content/uploads/2020/08/Complementary-and-Alternative-Treatments-Revised-2020-final.-1.pdf.

Have you looked into complementary or alternative treatments?

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Thank you for the sites. And information. Your words were encouraging and you have given me “more” help in one post than I’ve received in 4 years.

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@wisco50

I am truly SO sorry you had to deal with that type of behavior you describe. It IS so devastating and depressing to deal with such behavior, especially when you are already feeling frustrated, angry, etc. I had a situation where it took almost ten years from the time I started having a condition that was extremely painful - and invisible to others - saw several medical/dental specialists, had multiple therapies, surgeries, etc. I worked in a hospital and yet still was not believed including by co-workers.
I am hoping you can find some true relief in your near future.

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Thank you for your comment and empathy. Throughout my journey of discovery, I have lost faith and trust in the medical establishment. I realize the symptoms are subtle in the beginning, and do progress over time, but it should not take a years diagnose someone with a debilitating illness.

Think doctors have such an ego that they cannot bring themselves to tell somebody “I don’t have a clue what’s wrong with you.” I’ve had some just sit there and shake their head and no words come out and offer no suggestions for next steps.
I’m extremely disappointed and discouraged. With that said, I have not given up, I will keep searching for an answer to relieve my pain and suffering. My list of therapies and doctors and tests are long but I’m willing to try anything to see if it helps.

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@ssjohns

I concur and completely understand your frustration. After visiting Dr. after Dr. and having tests after tests, no one was able to tell me what was wrong. I went to one neurologist, who said to me, “what are you doing here“ I proceeded to tell him my story, my symptoms, etc., and told him that I had been to Mayo clinic three times and could not be diagnosed. He responded in a nasty tone, “I find that hard to believe.“ Needless to say, I left in tears, and when I got home, I called the office administrator for the practice and told them about the encounter and that I wanted to be transferred to a different neurologist in the practice. Where is the compassion? Where is the understanding? Where is the bedside manner? It was this new neurologist that agreed to do the EMG on me and I was diagnosed that day. There is no excuse for these doctors to treat their patients with such distain and lack of empathy. I feel your pain and anxiety.

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Hug received. Thank you. I am so glad I joined this group. It helps to talk about your experience and vent a little with those who completely understand.

Sandra

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@annregister

Yes, some days are worse than others and I didn’t say a word to anyone about my pain for two years. I just put a smile on my face, worked everyday, came home and cried myself to sleep. Even my husband didn’t know the extent of my pain. I know people are there to help; I just don’t want to be a burden. However, it came to a point that the pain was so severe 24/7 that I couldn’t hide it anymore. And yes, it has killed me to not drive anymore but what has really destroyed me the most is having to walk away from teaching.

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Same here. I never complained for years about the PN pain. Last April I had spinal reconstructive surgery done (unrelated to PN) which went well but I caught all those infections you never want to catch in a hospital. I ended up staying in the hospital for 8 months. There were days I didn’t think I was coming home. I don’t remember a lot of things that occurred during those 8 months. My wife and daughters talk about what happened but I don’t recall most of it. My wife and daughters were there for me every day so you may want to chat with your husband about your pain. PT and OT are painful but I want to get back to a normal life. We travel a lot and I still have a bunch of places left on my bucket list. And our grandchildren are getting married and having children . So my plan is to see all 9 grandchildren married and meet my great grandchildren. No matter how long that may take. Dream on. Sorry you had to give up teaching. Two of my daughters are teachers and they love what they do. I walked away from engineering at MIT after 33 years because they were downsizing their Oceanography program and I accepted their buyout package. Then I went to work for BAE Systems on Long Island as an engineer for 9 years before retiring for good.

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@ssjohns

Thank you for your comment and empathy. Throughout my journey of discovery, I have lost faith and trust in the medical establishment. I realize the symptoms are subtle in the beginning, and do progress over time, but it should not take a years diagnose someone with a debilitating illness.

Think doctors have such an ego that they cannot bring themselves to tell somebody “I don’t have a clue what’s wrong with you.” I’ve had some just sit there and shake their head and no words come out and offer no suggestions for next steps.
I’m extremely disappointed and discouraged. With that said, I have not given up, I will keep searching for an answer to relieve my pain and suffering. My list of therapies and doctors and tests are long but I’m willing to try anything to see if it helps.

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NEVER give up!

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@ssjohns

I concur and completely understand your frustration. After visiting Dr. after Dr. and having tests after tests, no one was able to tell me what was wrong. I went to one neurologist, who said to me, “what are you doing here“ I proceeded to tell him my story, my symptoms, etc., and told him that I had been to Mayo clinic three times and could not be diagnosed. He responded in a nasty tone, “I find that hard to believe.“ Needless to say, I left in tears, and when I got home, I called the office administrator for the practice and told them about the encounter and that I wanted to be transferred to a different neurologist in the practice. Where is the compassion? Where is the understanding? Where is the bedside manner? It was this new neurologist that agreed to do the EMG on me and I was diagnosed that day. There is no excuse for these doctors to treat their patients with such distain and lack of empathy. I feel your pain and anxiety.

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Most of them have very little value…the least they could do is be nice.

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Prescription Medicinal Marijuana (Texas) which is CBD Oil with Turpines and THC, has worked wonders for me. It took 2 months to slowly reduce the tingling and burning of neuropathy in my feet to now almost none at all. I also have seen wonderful improvement with arthritis discomfort, and IBS.

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@sandywinters

Prescription Medicinal Marijuana (Texas) which is CBD Oil with Turpines and THC, has worked wonders for me. It took 2 months to slowly reduce the tingling and burning of neuropathy in my feet to now almost none at all. I also have seen wonderful improvement with arthritis discomfort, and IBS.

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I tried full spectrum CBD myself, with small(5mg) max thc gummy per day. Never helped neuropathy, but I didn't give it 2 months either.

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@steven120566

I tried full spectrum CBD myself, with small(5mg) max thc gummy per day. Never helped neuropathy, but I didn't give it 2 months either.

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My doctor told me it would take 3-4 months for the neuropathy to really show the best results. It only took a few days for arthritis, better sleep, IBS, and anxiety to improve though.

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