thanks to the all the women who answered my text. all of the advice was sound and to the point. the problem is me. I have a severe anxiety disorder especially when it is body related. that is why I am thinking I don't know if I can go through it or not. I tend to panic at most bodily disorders and discomfort. I think this will be very traumatic for me. I am seeing my dr. on the 25th of march and surgery is scheduled for april 2nd. so I will have to discuss it further with him and ask all my questions at that time. will keep u posted. believe me, I am not shy about asking questions.