Hi Jenny....I'm so sorry to hear about the loss of your husband. I can see why this entire situation is so hard for you with the loss of him. I have been very fortunate to have a supportive husband and 2 kids within a 100 miles from us. I looked up the area in which you live and it looks beautiful! I too struggle with weight now and have gained 20# since my surgery last year. Unfortunately at our age, it is so hard to lose weight. I don't really eat unhealthy, I just like a few sweets now and then too! Ice cream is my downfall, but when I do have some, it's a tiny baby size cone with one scoop! Oh well....my daughter reminds me of all the things I can be thankful for, and she is right. I was very depressed the first few months and was on Prozac (fluoxetine) for that but have recently weaned myself off it and doing fine without it. It really did help me with my depression and I had been on that med 2 other times in my life for major events and always successfully weaned off it within 6 -12 months. I will keep you in my prayers also that you are able to get a new hip. I have a friend in the next state over that I met online through a Facebook Group and she is 2 weeks post op from a new hip after being without one for 9 years! So far she is doing well. She is only 58 years old and this all started in her early 20's after a severe auto accident, several hip revisions and then finally removed due to infections for 9 years. She has been a real encouragement to me and we have become Facebook friends and chat privately on Facebook Messenger. If you are on Facebook and want to become friends, we could also do that if you like. I don't always check this email that the Mayo Clinic Connect has for me, but I'm hear for you and praying for you.....Cindy