Welcome to Connect, Littlesnowflake.
I hope you had a chance to read the messages in this discussion as @upartist and @tanglefoot have shared some information and experiences that I think you'll find useful.
Here's a refresher on "Kegel exercises: A how-to guide for women" http://mayocl.in/2kgTibr It doesn't mention Ben-wa balls, so I hope someone else has experience to share with you.
How long have you been doing the kegel exercises?

New to site - will post on last page at end. Do not know how to delete this post

Sorry everyone, I do not know how to do a new post so I hit the last reply on this forum. Could someone let me know how to do a post if I am not doing a reply to someone in particular?? Thank you. Not that forum savvy if you all notice!

Colleen - I am sooo lost - could you please let me know how to put a new post in and since no one has posted since 2017 , if anyone is still going to be posting to this site. Thank you for any help. I did a post on the last page but did not know how to delete so i just did an edit. If you think there is a chance this forum is still active I will repost my prolapse question. Again, thank you for your help.

Hi, @sueblue, and welcome to Mayo Clinic Connect.

If you would like to post to a discussion and don't want to reply to anyone in particular, click on "Last" right under the very first post (the one in the top blue-gray shaded area). Then scroll all the way down to the bottom of that "Last" page. You will see a box there that says, "Write your reply here." You can enter your comment or question there.

If you do want to reply to a particular comment in the discussion, click on the "Reply" button right at the bottom of their comment. Even better is to "tag" that member by putting their username (@___) in your reply so they know for sure you are responding to them. If you look around at discussions on Mayo Clinic Connect, you will note that members tag one another.

You do have the option to edit your own posts within 30 minutes of when you posted them, if you would like.

As to your question about posting in a discussion where the last post was in 2017: it's still very reasonable that members who'd posted in 2017 will return and discuss your post.

What aspect of your prolapse are you finding most bothersome currently?

@lisalucier, - Thank you so much for the reply. I just could not quite figure it out - it's hell to get old!
I put explanation first and then question:
I have a mucosal rectal prolapse with fecal incontinence. Started with severe long undiagnosed hyperthyroidism (Graves disease), had my thyroid destroyed with radioactive iodine (after I had it endo told me she gave me double the dose to make sure the thyroud was dead) and then went completely out of hand hypo. It was so bad it affected my digestive tract so I basically I had no gut motility and terrible constipation. Then came the prolapse. Colorectal surgeon said still had sphincter tone and go to pelvic PT. At that time did not have the leakage til a couple of days later. PT therapist had to do a vaginal exam to "test my sphincter tone for exercises" and I think I had leaked from the back door a bit and she must have pushed some anal leakage in my vagina because shortly after I started to have a vaginal discharge. I am post menopausal . It is not bad and no odor but yellowish in color, same as from rectum. Afraid to go to gyn as may be leaking and afraid more would be pushed up there. Also very atrophic (dried up) and I bleed from the speculum for a couple of days after a gyn visit.

OUESTION: How do I keep myself clean enough to go to the gyn??? And how do I keep from getting anal leakage on bleeding area at entrance of vagina after for a couple of days???

I tried 2x2 gauze pads which I use at nite to keep from running to front area but can't use in underwear as it hurts the prolapse. I could never sit in the car to get there, let alone after. At nite I kinda put it in the area between the rectum and vagina to catch anything so it is not directly on the prolapse. I think it dries it out and that is why it bothers me so much if touching it. It also gets irritated from wiping and washing "my insides" as I dont always know when it is in or out.I dont know if I will ever be OK again as I lost a lot of weight and muscle mass. Was only 112 lbs to start and trying desperately to gain some weight back. Endo keeps upping my thyroid hormone replacement but I am still very hypo

Hi, @sueblue -- I'd like to introduce you to some other members who may have some thoughts for you on your mucosal rectal prolapse with fecal incontinence and the discharge you've been experiencing. Please meet @pma58, @letsgo, @coliemore, @dreamin1037, @aithnie and @cowboy1997 . I also thought you'd like to meet @sandytoes14, @hopeful33250 and @kariulrich.

I thought you might be interested in one of the Mayo clinic videos about fecal incontinence, here: http://mayocl.in/2CfJac9.

How are you holding up emotionally with this situation?

Thank you so much for your kind words and reply. I am kind of at my wits end as I want to get a vaginal culture done but really afraid to. I dont want to make matters worse than they are and if some anal leakage gets in there from the exam plus I will be bleeding I am scared of maybe getting sepsis. The leakage started as just excess mucous from the rectal prolapse but now is a bit worse. I will check out that video.

If it was just incontinence and not rectal prolapse i could keep something up against it to prevent leakage but the prolapse sticks to whatever I try putting there and it hurts pulling it off. All I need now is bleeding there. It seems you go to the doctor and you get worse! If only the GP haddone a thyroid blood test earlier instead of passing me off I know I would not have gotten this bad. The PT therapist said I may even have SIBO from the severe hypothyroidism. I mentioned this to the doc but "nothing"!

Somehow I find this worse than what I went thru with the breast cancer.

@sueblue -- sounds like it's been a really hard time if it's been worse than what you went through with breast cancer.

You may also want to check out this thread on rectal prolapse. Some of the posts there are older, but others are from 2018: http://mayocl.in/2Fy8Rnb.

I lost my 1st reply. I too have your mucus problem. What I do is ..cotton panties next to my body for comfort.. Then nylon panty with a thin extra long pad attached to the nylon pair. The pad must be thin as to not put more pressure on the prolapse and the longest made to cover the area. I have found a great brand..but I don't think I can post here. This isn't very glamorous. ..but it's the best I've come up with.