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I live in an assisted living facility and there are personal care assistants that will give you a shower. My problem is that they are mostly young pretty girls and I’m an old man at 70. I feel ugly and embarrassed when they help me. I have refused their help for over a year.
I don’t feel comfortable being in the shower with young 20 year old, fresh out of high school girls.
There is a seat and grab bars everywhere but I don’t feel comfortable with young girls to help me even though I’m at that point now . I need a cane now due to my vertigo and taking a shower has become dangerous for me.
I need their assistance but I don’t dare ask. I never stink, even in 90 degree temperatures. But I change all my clothes daily. I haven’t taken a shower in almost a year but you’d never know it.
When I was in a nursing home for physical therapy I had no problem getting naked and getting help from the staff but once I got to my facility I became shy. I never sweat but my scalp is loaded with psoriasis and when they cut my hair it’s obvious with all the dandruff on the floor. How do I get out of this phobia?
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Hi Andy,
The tennis player, Stan Wawrinka (you probably don't know him), but he is called Stan the Man. Anyway, re the phobia, are you referring to the young girls giving you the shower? I know that being a woman I would be very embarrassed if a male were giving me a shower. Is there any way that you can ask for possibly a male aid to help you, or even for an older woman (is that more likely)? I do feel for you and I can imagine your embarrassment because I too would be embarrassed if a young male aid were helping me with my shower. Fortunately I don't have any problem getting into the shower re falling (although sometimes I do get a bit scared and I do have a small bar that sticks to the side of the bathtub but I would rather have a metal one installed. I need a doctor's note for that one (I live in affordable living (65") and I am 75. I wish I had some good advice for your dilemma but all I have is what I said above. BTW, I am 5'9" and as you said I never have any odor and what about using the baby wipes (I do) and they are really good. As far as your hair you can get a type of cap that does wash your hair (I ordered some for my friend who is in a nursing home but my friend has had 2 strokes, heart attack and she has cancer. Why does this happen to one of the most caring, helpful, selfless person that I know. Well, I think I am talked out and I hope I have given you little help. If you want to reply feel free to. I wish you well Andy the Man. : )