Thank you so much for sharing as your thoughts, feelings, conflicts are similar to mine. Husband diagnosed in 11/22 with stage 4a NSCLC. Planning…..yes, it’s difficult, especially when it’s a part of your marriage to go, do, travel etc. My husband was admitted 4/13/23 to the hospital because he asked me to take him to the ER because of trouble breathing. He has had chronic inflammation since 8/22 and the cancer was diagnosed 3 months later. The inflammation has been treated with steroids and he is back on them. The hospital stay of 7 days revealed embolisms in R lung and leg. He is home using FT oxygen. We have plane reservations on May 15 that he insists on keeping. We never asked and were never offered time prognoses. We will be married 50 years in 1/24. To young couples, they may think, well you you were lucky to have had each other that long. It’s never long enough……