The Four Agreements by Don Miguel Ruiz helped me and my children. Though my husband may not understand or abide by them, it has been a sanity saver for us. We see a family counselor who helps us work through things. Yes, sometimes we have to engage in therapeutic fibbing to get through my husband's catastrophic breakdown events (never argue and sometimes you have to play along with the hallucinations to keep the peace). Don't take anything personal and do your best. Really good read that helps in alot of other areas in life.