Many of these problems hit home for me. I had always been a healthy person. Suddenly, like a ton of bricks, bad things started happening. My husband died. We had been married for 59 years. His loss has been unbearable. Shortly thereafter I had to have a full hip replacement. Because there was no one to take care of me I had to go to one of those so-called skilled nursing facilities. Now I know what it is like to go hell. I had a serious falling out with my younger son. My older son lives and works in Asia and was not able to come to my assistance because of Covid. I had to have a biopsy on my scalp and the diagnosis is that it is irritated because of alopecia scarring. Will have to see what treatments the dermatologist has in mind. My orthopedic surgeon told me I was losing bone mass. So I have a bone scan coming up. After reading about the medications they give you for this situation I am inclined to take my chances. I do have a good therapist and she has diagnosed me with PTSD because of childhood trauma. All this has come crashing down on me and I already 88 years old. I was urged to go to one of those homes. I visited two of them and determined that they are not for me. I still have my mind and am living independently. I have a good cleaning person who comes every three weeks. I am able and capable of doing everything else for myself. I am able to drive - even on the freeway. At my age it is hard to plan ahead because you don't how much longer you will live. But I am determined to hang on to my independence as long as possible.

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