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What caused my cancer?

Breast Cancer | Last Active: Jun 10, 2023 | Replies (30)

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@bpknitter53

I liked the graph, but I'm sorry it made me dizzy following all those lines. I looked at the CDC - "what are risk factors for breast cancer". For the Risk Factors you cannot change - I'm older (dx at 68); genetic mutation (BRCA2+); have dense breasts; family history of ovarian cancer (me at early 30's - caught very early; had surgery and two kids). Of the 8 cannot change items I have 4 - I stopped worrying about why/how I got cancer. Of the Factors I could change - 2 were in the past; only ones I can change are getting more active and losing some more weight - I'm not obese but I could benefit from losing about 10-15 lbs.

But you're right in the beginning I wondered what I did that caused this; if there were habits I could have had that would have prevented the mutated gene becoming active to allow cancer to start growing. Maybe if I didn't eat ANY sweets; maybe if I was vegan; how about if I did intermittent fasting. Some of these are habits I would have had to have most of my life to maybe have an impact on the mutated gene that growing up we didn't even know about. We still don't know what preventative measures we can take to prevent these mutated genes doing what they do. Time and research will hopefully have that information for those we may have passed that gene to - (1) not knowing that we had it; (2) realizing after the fact that we have passed it to our children (son BRCA2+; daughter BRCA-). I sometimes feel guilty that I unknowing passed that gene to my child - what would I have done different had I known.

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You cannot feel guilty for what you never knew. You only know what you know as they say. I believe we all do the best we can with what we know.
I also am a firm believer in moderation, maybe wrongly, but I don’t think a life of the occasional glass of wine or sweet kills anyone.
I do hope there is a day when women don’t get breast cancer, but I don’t believe feeling bad about ourselves is ever helpful.
Has your daughter been tested for BRCA genes?

Hi @bpknitter53 -- I'm glad you brought up decisions about genetics. I'm sad my son inherited BRCA2+ from me, but I don't feel guilty. I didn't know. He doesn't blame me. I don't blame my parents who didn't know. I'm glad I was born regardless.

IMPORTANT: For anyone BRCA2+, their spouse needs to be tested for BRCA2 before having children because if both parents pass that mutation onto their child (25% chance) it creates a much more serious rare disease called Fanconi anemia. That's a different ballgame. Luckily, only about 1 in 500 people are BRCA2+ so it's unlikely that both parents will have it. Hopefully, they told you about that when reviewing your genetic findings.