Why do women in their 60’s still use shopping as a social event? I know my friends do. With Dysautonomia and pain, that is one of the least fun ways to spend a day. Plus I’ve gained weight from Tegretol, so clothes shopping isn’t a pleasure. I’ve given up many social activities because of unpredictable dizziness, fatigue and diarrhea. I don’t need a wardrobe of beautiful clothes. Don’t wear the necklaces and bracelets I have, because they irritate me.
My chosen activities these days are mostly volunteer work. I guess since I had to give up my career, and know what suffering feels like now, spending my time on things that are meaningful is very satisfying to me. I foster kittens in my home, drive special-needs adults to the nail salon, pack food bags for children at church ( sitting down if needed - the church staff understands). When my friends do an hour long power walk that I can no longer do (and no, they’re not interested in slowing down to match my pace), I show up for the coffee and visit after.
Life goes on. The future - even six weeks from now - is unpredictable. I don’t like it, but since I’m generally optimistic, and have a strong Christian faith, I just keep adapting and doing my best.
But shopping in boutiques fo hours to buy clothes and jewelry I don’t need? That was a pretty lame hobby even when I could do it!