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I'm sitting here right now debating whether to meet a friend for coffee tomorrow afternoon. You can probably guess what's topmost on my mind, why I'm "debating" the matter with myself: the coffee shop is in a busy part of town with difficult parking. Do I really want to go –– even though I know I'd enjoy a talk with this friend –– if it means there's a chance I may have to hobble the length of a city block, maybe more? Crazy, this PN business!

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Do it!! I know how very inconvenient it is, how there’s a lot of gambling on the parking/walking/seating situation, and of course your safety and endurance. I know we have to pick our battles on what’s best to maintain friendship and any semblance of a social life, but I don’t think we should force them to always come to us if we’re able to meet them half way once in awhile. It helps show that we’re given to help sustain relationships and we know they just don’t understand how this disease makes it so hard on us. You know what’s best. For me, I absolutely had to give up shopping with my girlfriends; it was a timed sporting event for them and I was making the team lose. We also had to give up the pro football seats we owned for 20 years; the seats we owned were the absolute greatest for those with legs who could walk up & down the 20 rows required to get to our front row aisle seats on the 50 yard line. We were unable to get a trade for handicapped seating, and if we did, they would have not been good seats. So I’ve given things up, and my husband made sacrifices, so when I find opportunities to socialize that seem less taxing, I jump at the chance!! Actually, I’m unable to jump… but coffee, meals, movies, even bowling or things I can watch, I try hard to get out, and touch anything available if I need to get around that way. I hope you find you might be able to do this!

Ray - hope you went for coffee. I too have come to points where I don't know if I should do this or that. Anyway, I usually give it a try unless I sense danger and when I can do it, I have a great feeling of accomplishment. Ok, I can still do that! Hmmm. So, for me, I'd see that walk as a challenge and usually the end result will justify the effort in several ways.