My advice still stands. When someone posts that they are desperate and thinking about “not being here anymore” because they are suffering, I feel their pain too. Your doctor sounds like a jerk. Believe me, I have encountered plenty of doctors who dismiss my feelings, symptoms and desperation and just want me out of their face. Usually it’s because they are incompetent. You deserve better. You deserve answers. And you deserve a life not dictated by pain. Please consider getting a second opinion from another urologist (and a nephrologist). It sounds like something other than a UTI is going on and a good doctor will want to figure it out for you. Keep us updated. The people on this website care. Including me.