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Intermediate Oncotype score: Did you choose chemo?

Breast Cancer | Last Active: Jan 31 1:32pm | Replies (25)

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Wondering if I can get some insight. I’m sort of stuck on whether or not to get chemo. I’m right in the middle, so either way goes. Just wondering if anyone’s been in this situation and what helped to guide you in your decision. Just looking for different perspectives more on a human side rather than looking at all those numbers. Thank you.

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I have 3 new grandbabies and I plan to stick around at least long enough to see them graduate high school. I have many things to look forward to that I want to see and do and if I loose my hair from chemo (which I did) I figured it was a small price to pay now to have that chance. Also I have longevity on my side from both parents - father deceased (2021) at 96 and my mother is now 96 and going strong (she also lives alone). My dad had colon cancer dx when he was 60 and lived a long life after -- well so can I.

I looked at all the pluses of what I could see and do after I get through what is required for me to be on the other side of these treatments. I have a list of things I want to do and after chemo ended and hair started growing back - I'm working on doing those things. Some are simple things like spending more time trying different recipes - even ones I might like but I know my husband won't eat - oh well - more for me.

I am looking back and thinking I am not sorry I took chemo. Imagine if I had refused it and then relapsed. I would have beaten myself up every day. I won’t say it was easy, but the 19 years I have had have been worth it. That is not perfect years but pretty great years. With my husband, and my family, and riding horses, and lunch with the girls, and………………
For me the answer to this question was peace of mind. But I gained so much more. 💕I always like to ask who are you taking treatments for, or what are you taking treatments for?

I looked at what I would gain by experiencing the hopefully short term discomfort - and the goal at the end far out weighed what I'd endure short-term. I'm not at the end of my treatments but I think my focus on the goal and my ability to keep a positive outlook have helped me endure this journey.

I was 48 with 3 young children. In my mind there was never any doubt- not fun exactly like Chris pointed out.
I have not had any relapse 30 years later.