I am so sorry and I totally empathize. I had proctitis which turned into colitis. Long story short, it resulted in a total colectomy in 2000. I received a J-pouch surgery where they constructed a colon out of my small intestine. Although my bowel function is not perfect, it is much better now that the colitis was (literally) cut out of my body. During my bout with colitis, I experienced terrible fecal incontinence on a daily basis. The reason I mention this to you is, in addition to colitis, I was diagnosed with Irritable Bowel Syndrome (IBS) which I believe was largely responsible for my fecal incontinence. I do not know if this is a part of your diagnosis. If not, I would check into it. There may be a IBS treatment that will address your incontinence. Just an idea for you to consider. Best of luck to you.