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15 year old daughter with Complex PTSD
Mental Health | Last Active: Jun 7, 2023 | Replies (19)Comment receiving replies
Thank you for your thoughts and kind words. It really means so much to me.
Her therapist knows of her weed/vaping/alcohol use, and has been slowly bringing it up in sessions.
I think that the weed and vaping are the two things that she does the most, and occasionally has experienced with drinking.
I try to talk to her about it, but most times she becomes extremely defensive and shuts down completely. To be honest, when she does smoke weed, she seems to be more at peace and can focus on homework and other things. But like you said, all of these things can definitely lead to addiction, and that’s something I definitely don’t want for her.
I will definitely check out the website you provided, but I’m guessing I probably already have, lol. I’m big on researching this stuff on my own, so that I have a better understanding of what abuse and trauma does to people. (Not only do I research it to better understand what her abuse has done to her, but I also have trauma from being married to someone who is verbally, mentally, and emotionally abusive…so it helps me to understand myself and what I’m experiencing as well)
Thank you for reaching out to me, it really means a lot!
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@caseyn2020 I'm happy that you found support in my words.
Your selection of reading material is so good for C-PTSD. I've read by Kolk including "The Body Keeps the Score" and several books by Maté. One thought. If your daughter isn't yet interested in reading the books or what you've highlighted both of these authors can be found on YouTube. I especially like some of the more recent videos by Gabor Maté.
Since you've described your husband as abusive I'm wondering if what happened between the two of you has affected your daughter. It's take a lot of courage to move out of the house and away from your husband and I want to applaud you for making these huge decision. The environment with your friend, even though temporary, gives you and your daughter an opportunity for quiet moments and healing.
You have so, so much on your plate that I hope you are taking care of you. You are a thoughtful and lovely mother to bring all of this here at Mayo Clinic Connect and allow us to support you and provide suggestions. Are you seeing a mental health therapist? What do you do for yourself to cope and soothe?
Casey have you thought about an inpatient program for her if she is as debilitated as you say? Since Covid had such a detrimental effect on our youth she needs help sooner than later. You should speak with her therapist about this too for guidance with your concerns.
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I'm replying to this because of the cannabis comment. My Psychiatrist wrote me a prescription for it!
I don't smoke it, because I have asthma. I make a tincture which I add to coconut oil and then pour into tiny bear molds. I have broken my back twice...T8, right pelvis and my sacrum. For seven years I was prescribed Hydrocodone for my pain. The medication barely took the edge off. I went to a pain clinic, saw an ortho doc, all told me no surgery, pain meds or shots.
When I finally did try cannabis for pain I was totally shocked. I do not feel "high" at all! And the most impressive thing for me is no pain at all in my back, means more movement for me, too! I was always so against cannabis and now I am a convert. it is natural. my body has no after effects. Your daughter may have found that cannabis is helpful ~ just saying ~ its a great big world and trauma survivors have had to find things that work for each individual.
Alcohol to me, is the big gateway drug; it is everywhere and it destroys lives.
Honey, I am sending you and your daughter so much positive energy. xoxoxo