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15 year old daughter with Complex PTSD
Mental Health | Last Active: Jun 7, 2023 | Replies (19)Comment receiving replies
I am almost 69 years old and I was not diagnosed with complex ptsd until I was 64. I was scared at the time that I had Parkinson's so we came to Mayo in Rochester for a second opinion. I cannot tell you what this diagnosis meant to me. I have struggled during my life with crippling depression and have been treated for it in both talk therapy and with medication; after I was attacked and raped by the owner of the company I worked for. My parents were my attackers, so I had no safe place to go when I was a child. As an adult, I had to teach and parent myself. I was gifted with a grandma who taught me the meaning of unconditional love.
If you'd like you can share one of my methods for working through deep depression...I imagine that I am wearing a wetsuit, (I live in Iowa) and that the depression is the waves that are coming in off the ocean. I guess it could be called a mindful meditation, as I surf my way through that ugly, sucking you to the bottom of the world feeling that depression unchecked pulls you under with. Does your daughter like to read? I am so sorry that your daughter has been hurt this way. I send you lots of love, healing energy and laughter, because it is so important to laugh!
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I am so sorry that you have had to experience that. It makes me so sad and angry that this happens to people. To see the detrimental impact it has on the victim (survivor) as well as the family. I wouldn’t wish it in my worst enemy.
I’ve tried to teach her so many other “healthy” methods of coping with what happened to her. However, I just don’t think she’s there yet. I wish that she could be more open minded that there are so many other ways of helping that aren’t detrimental to her health. I think with age, she will recognize that, and be more apt to try them. I will never stop giving her other options on ways she can cope, and I just hope that one day soon she will allow herself to try safer techniques.
I’ve been reading many books written by a well known Psychiatrist and Physician - Bessel Van Der Kolk and Gabor Maté. I highlight everything in them that I think my daughter will find beneficial and I hope that she takes the time soon to go through them, because what they say really opens your eyes to what trauma victims go through, how it affects their brains, and different ways of coping with their pain.
Thank you for sharing a little of your story with me and what has helped you.
Lots of love to you 🤍