Hello @clairewww, Welcome to Connect. I know it's frustrating not being able to get a neurology appointment after being seen by trauma and orthopedic professionals. It's good to be asking questions which makes it even worse when you can't get any answers or treatments that help at your appointments. I did find some information that might be similar to what you describe and may be helpful.

--- Meralgia paresthetica-like syndrome may be caused by transient lumbar nerve root injury without definite compression: a case report: https://pubmed.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/21294431/
--- Delayed Diagnosis of Meralgia Paresthetica: A Case Report: https://www.thenerve.net/journal/view.php?number=153.

Have you thought about seeking a second opinion or help at a teaching hospital or major health facility?