Good morning, @cec75 My name is Scott and I know this is a tough one for sure. One thing to remember is that your ex's dementia might make logical conversations on this, or any topic, impossible. Especially since memory is so often affected early in dementia patients.

If it were me, and this is just my personal opinion, I'd be inclined to stress the importance of safety for him, such as cooking, steps, maintenance, etc. With my wife, I often couched her changes (no driving, hospital bed, and more) in terms of safety for her and others. I also stayed away from using terms like 'never', 'gone', etc. I tried to keep things amorphous, knowing I'd most likely be having to have the same conversation again in the near future.

Strength, Courage, & Peace