That has really been some horrible experiences with the feeding tube. I have not experienced anyone's feeding tube coming out right after being inserted. I think that's pretty rare. My husband meets with a dietician that works with the cancer center and he had shown him how to do it. I've had a lot of experience with them also but it's great to get education from someone else also. My husband crushes meds and puts them through his tube as well as liquids. It just makes things easier so he can heal from the treatments. If you went with a palliative care program the nurse can provide education and help as a go between you and the doctor to help with symptom management. Our cancer center doctors are also palliative care certified so I thought that was the standard but maybe not.