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How do You Deal with Dangerous Doctor, Abusive Provider? Tips?
Just Want to Talk | Last Active: Sep 10, 2023 | Replies (108)Comment receiving replies
We give doctors a special status in our society. They are in a profession that survived the Dark Ages. So, we expect a lot from them and pay them accordingly. We trust our lives to them. Yet they are real people, just like the rest of us. They have good days and bad days. They have relationship issues and medical issues involving coworkers, friends, families, and themselves. They have feelings that can get hurt and emotions that they can't control. There is good as well as bad among them, just like the rest of us. When they do something wrong, the results can be devastating in more ways than one. When they do something right, the results can be life changing in the most positive way.
So, what is a patient to do? It is best to be proactive with your own health. The best doctors will treat you as an equal. They will treat you, the person, not your body part. I will not return to a doctor who is condescending or arrogant. I always return to a doctor who is knowledgeable and compassionate. It isn't always easy to find the right doctor, even in a quality system. But the chances of finding the right doctor are best in a quality system, like Mayo or a nearby teaching hospital. It's worth travelling, if you can. Telehealth has arrived, an actual positive that came out of the pandemic. There are some doctors who have established a virtual online network of specialties to provide services to rural areas, where people wouldn't be able to get help before.
There is some very good medicine out there. We have to do our best to find and embrace it. If you find Marcus Welby, more power to you.
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I give Drs + all medical professionals a special status bc they do the life preserving and saving work that is directly related to quality of life. We are so fortunate in the US to have the quality of healthcare we have. Healthcare professionals are licensed. We have high professional standards that defines the quality of care we have access to in the US. Patients who are able to+ have provider options, have to do their part in the Dr-patient relationship. But medical professionals are responsible for insuring their personal issues don't interfere w their or professional performance. And the limited numbers of licensed professionals who fall short of sub standard care have to be dealt with by someone other than a patient. They need peer and licensing board oversight imo. In my experience w this referred PCP, he literally weaponized his healthcare capabilities to do intentional harm bc he has a deep problem that he CHOOSES to indulge. This man doesn't even fit into the realm of 99% of Drs. His 'mistakes' were conscious ones. So he's I don't include him in the mix with the profession at all. He's an anomaly. He's a dangerous doctor bc of who he is+ not for any other reason. He's an abuser by his nature and abuses without remorse or effort to change. As typical of these personality types, he's 'charming' initially and by the time the facade is dropped, you've already been victimized. That's what I'm dealing with the after- damage of. I have to now deal with the medical residual of that PLUS now deal with the huge burden of addressing my medical records, which are legal documents, that he corrupted to discredit+ scapegoat me to obfuscate his dangerous behavior. If any of this was due to any reason other than malicious intent by a character disordered doctor, it wouldn't be the alarming problem it is. I see it for what it is, and what it is, is shocking to me. And now, it's my problem to deal with, added to what I was already drowning under medically. I live directed by principles. I'd love to just let this go, but doing so would be enabling it and that is not something my conscience will accept. Someone who does harm with the pathological skills he has, knowingly, does not belong unsupervised in the profession. That's the bottom line. This man is not like 99% of the rest of the profession behind closed doors. That's why it's so disturbing. I checked the Internet reviews and all of his prior ones from his years of practice were removed until one new one appeared a few weeks ago. I believe he had them removed- my conclusion+ I suspect he has a history that isn't known to his peers and is excluded from assertion by harmed patients. I'm going to find out what I can and do what I can try see that this doctor get put on the radar for oversight. That's my goal.