Your comment made me profoundly sad. If the people around you are telling you to "relax", obviously they have no understanding or empathy for those of us who live with constant pain. It is exhausting, soul crushing & takes the joy out of life. We would love to "relax", but that's not an option. My husband is clueless & tired of listening to my problems, my best friend says "it could be worse, you could be homeless". In other words, shut up & deal with it. So that's what I try to do.