Dear @rsfcowgirl ,

first of all, thank you so much for a long email that must have cost you a lot of energy just to write.
It is terrible that you had to experience something so awful. I am sorry it happened to you.
Unfortunately, I believe that there are different nuisances in doctors' behaviors. Although there might not be (I hope!) many around resembling your horrible doctor, I do think there are more bad doctors than kind doctors out there. - Or so is my experience because even though the really mean ones might be few, there is a very high number of indifferent, uninterested doctors who could not care less. I have met a few of them.
What makes it especially bad, is that it is when we are at our most vulnerable and weak level, that we need them the most. And so, whatever wrong they might do, has a much greater impact on us - both physically and mentally, when we are very sick.

I think doctors should be under the supervision of an independent organization that sends someone to check on them (& control how they behave and how they treat their patients) several times a year.
The problem, I believe, is that they feel all too secure and powerful the way it works now. And that alone is enough to make them behave badly because once they have finished medical school and internship, they pretty much are on their own, and can do whatever they please.