@crissyd This sounds just awful to me. You have a lot of pain and it sounds like your doctor isn't listening to or answering your questions. When the doctor thought the bump was a small infected cyst was the bump removed was it sent to pathology? If yes, what did the pathology report say? Any bump or really any tissue removed from your body should be sent to pathology for a diagnosis. There are many other diagnoses the cyst/bump could be.

Do you feel like you would like another opinion from a different doctor? Are there are other gynecologists where you live where you can make an appointment? The pain you are feeling from your side to your back is very real and disruption and could be related to the vulvar bump or could be something else. I can see how worried you are.

Will you get a different medical opinion?