Thank you! It's been like a story with different points of view. The radiation oncologist has been the best doc so far--informative, and not too authoritarian. Millennials are old enough now to be specialists--and I find they can be more collaborative than older doctors. So this doctor feels I'm high risk (for recurrence, metastasis) but still worth treating as possibly curative. So I'll be doing a course of radiation--3 weeks--aimed in part at a lymph node with cancer that is hard to reach surgically. Then I'll pretty much be done for good with medical interventions except for AI. I'm guessing a recurrence will send me to palliative care or hospice rather than treatments. Basically I'm not doing anything I find too troublesome nor desperately trying to fight cancer but attempting to be myself and live a full life while I'm on earth.
All best to you. These boards are a great support.