@bearmiller03 Don't give up. 3 months is very early in your recovery. I takes a lot longer, and 3 weeks was not an honest answer for a reasonable leave of absence from the workplace after spine surgery. Perhaps that was being influenced by employer expectations. Healing from a fusion takes longer than healing after disc replacement, and the patient's age and condition has a lot to do with that. If you are fused, your surgeon may allow physical therapy. The scar tissue tightens up a lot during healing and may be a source of pain for you.

You might want to look at mypofascial release therapy. It has helped me a lot.

MFR is Myofascial Release Therapy. There is a discussion on MFR that you might find helpful.

Myofascial Release Therapy (MFR) for treating compression and pain: https://connect.mayoclinic.org/discussion/myofascial-release-therapy-mfr-for-treating-compression-and-pain/

You can find a provider search at http://mfrtherapists.com/

Don't second guess yourself. Putting off surgery can also increase nerve damage which can become permanent. It is best to intervene earlier if nerve damage is an urgent concern, and doctors often can't tell you exactly when that will happen and when nerves will start to die. It can get better and it takes time and patience. Do your best to relax and let yourself heal.