While I am not a gentleman, I have helped my dad with this situation. He only likes Depends brand (it doesn't matter which kind as long as it is Depends.) I bought a small pack at a store and we finally found out that he likes a tighter feel (they leak less) so he wears the size SmallMedium. Once we settled on a brand and size, I started ordering them on bulk from Sam's club. They are delivered to his door and it has worked out very well. Hope this helps a little! (You can also order on Amazon and they send them regularly if you hit the subscribe button. That was nice, too. We just use Sam's because it is easier to get larger quantities and the price is a bit less.)

My husband used Depends for a while and was content with them but he was/is very resistant to changing. They didn’t hold up for long. We switched to Seni pull-ups which are very absorbent and traps the moisture away from his body. Even when he sat in urine all day, he never has had any sign of a rash or sores. I order them from Amazon. We did try the style with tabs but they always seemed to come loose. I clip the seams with scissors before using to help with tearing to remove. If your husband doesn’t mind changing, that may not be needed.

Hi @merpreb, My husband has Alzheimer's. He is still continent, but has the occasional accident, mainly bladder. He likes the TENA brand Proskin Protective Underwear which is gray in color (so looks more like regular underwear). It is rated for moderate absorption, three marks shy of full absorption. I ordered them from Amazon. We also have a cleansing toilet seat cover (Kohler, manually operated) which he's gotten the hang of and helps with hygiene. Before these, I was using the Prevail brand, which they used in the care home when he was in rehab, but he prefers these. I think they fit more snugly.