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DiscussionExcruciating chronic left side neck pain plus lumbar issues
Spine Health | Last Active: Nov 18, 2023 | Replies (360)Comment receiving replies
Replies to "@jm1 @vlk420 Hi jm1 and vlk420, Thanks for all the help and the heart breaking stories..."
Alfred, Have you discussed your feelings and fears with your wife? Does she drive? If she does, why isn't she helping and taking you to your appointments? Is she busy taking care of your sons or working, and can't leave them alone to help take you to an appointment? She can't help you if she isn't fully aware of what you are experiencing. Please talk to her and figure out a plan, and you'll feel better about a lot of this. Do you have other relatives who can help get you to appointments? In order to get help, you will need to get to appointments and figure out how you can commit to that to be a good patient. How long will it be until you see the surgeon?
If you do have surgery, there will be follow up appointments and probably some rehab too. Surgeons can back out of helping for any number of reasons, so if you want their help, please do your best. I heard a surgeon at a spine conference telling other surgeons he doesn't advise taking cases of patients with mental or emotional issues because no matter how well the surgery is done, they will not be satisfied and may blame the surgeon. I am not making any judgements here, but the surgeon will when he sees you, and you want him to see you as a good patient who wants to fix the problem and heal, and return to their normal life.
Surgery is always a compromise, and hopefully you'll improve your spine function. I am able to drive with my spinal fusion, so don't worry about that for yourself right now. It might be a good idea to talk to a counselor on how you can think about this differently and not be so stressed out about your symptoms. Remember to breathe, slow and deep and try to stay relaxed. Music is your friend, so listen and relax. I have been there too and started out being terrified, and I worked out a plan so I could relax. It took me 2 years to find a surgeon who would help me. Your plan will help you feel in control of your choices.
Please talk to your wife about all of this and how together you can both face your challenges. Good for you for going for a walk. That is a great way to lower your stress and help your blood pressure and it will help your spine. You can do this and get your mind off of your worries. Take it one day at a time. Don't push hard on exercise, just walk leisurely to enjoy it. Enjoy the sunshine and listen to the birds.
Jennifer
I truly hope you can get some answers and pain calms down. Vascular compression and hip impingement, affects major nerves and can stop you in your track, that’s what it did to me