My decision was made for me. My grandchildren live about 2 1/2 hours away so I see them about once a month. When I was diagnosed and it was known that I would lose my hair and have surgery, my daughter in law told them, even though they were young (6, 4 and 2). She used the “C” word and did not try to sugar coat it. She is a pediatrician and also a very pragmatic person.

I always wore a wig when I saw them (I am NOT one of those people who looks good bald or even with a bandana). They joked with me and wanted to see me without so I took it off for them a time or two. Then they liked to tease me about it-affectionately.

Even though I was surprised that my DIL was so forthright with her young children, I guess it made things easier going forward. I went from them knowing me as a brunette grandma with shoulder length hair to a wig wearing granny to one with short silver hair as it began to come back.

So do what’s comfortable for you and your loved ones.

Best wishes to you, Cindy