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Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Mar 11, 2023 | Replies (41)Comment receiving replies
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Yes, Will and I learned years ago to laugh at things that before were so dramatic. He jokes more than I do and sometimes he is just plain silly, and I call him “my silly guy” - all in fun. Recently He seems to know when I need time to settle down, as we are moving and packing and my frustration level gets very low! He tells me to stop and start again tomorrow. He used to be a workaholic and made sure I was too, and stop was not in his vocabulary. He has slowed down considerably and is no longer driven to constantly work, and I benefit from this change. I can tell Dementia has played a big part in this change because it takes longer for him to figure out how to do something. What used to take 10 minutes now takes half an hour. I’m trying to be more patient with him and remind myself he is sick and doing the best that he can. Now I am becoming the workaholic! Now that’s funny!!
Well Merry, at least you got your bathroom cleaned. You’re ahead of me, & you got a good laugh too. We steal the little moments now. A helpful comment I read from many people on my two caregiver sites is, Don’t beat yourself up about it.” I really appreciate that advice & am learning to take it to heart. We are doing a very difficult job for which we had little to no training & it won’t end until the men we love leave us forever. So I say, “Let’s cut ourselves some slack,” at least today, to be our own valentines!