Hi, my husband Will has Vascular Dementia and he sounds like your husband, having to do a million little things before he can proceed towards his goal. He will find many things to do just as dinner is ready and in the meantime, our dinner is getting cold. I remember his mother was like that as well. After cooking a big meal, she just had to wash all the dishes, pots and pans, and clean the kitchen before joining us in the front room. By the time she was done, we had been relaxing and socializing for at least half an hour or more. When he is driving, he is constantly changing all the controls and not paying attention to how fast he is driving and sways back and forth on the road. His behavior seems to be compulsive and reminds me of Jack Nicholson in “As Good as it Gets”, having to lock the doors three or four times. I try to get used to his nitpicking but it takes a lot of patience to wait for him to start and finish something in a timely manner. His judgment regarding priorities and decisions is not good. He changes his mind about something but forgets to tell me and then gets angry because I didn’t remember and swears he told me. He is on a schedule which I understand is good for him to have. And forget playing cards. He is so slow that I can check my emails, go to the bathroom or read a book while he is figuring out how he wants to play - but he is great at it. He is also great with puzzles, Solitaire and Sudoko. And sometimes he remembers something I forgot! He helps me with cooking and dishes and even makes the bed, so I am grateful for his help and he
likes feeling productive.