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Anyone feel devasted about how you look & feel? And guilty too?
Breast Cancer | Last Active: May 30, 2023 | Replies (61)Comment receiving replies
@colely Please accept my apology. That's it I'm in the time-out chair indefinitely. Not planning to ever post again. It was never my intent to make anyone feel worse than they already do. Good Bye to all I'm so very sorry. Please be well and blessed.
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This last exchange made me feel really sad. I don't think anyone was ill-intentioned or wanted to upset anyone. I think the question about how not to compare ourselves is important. Maybe the start is to really know we are not other people--just ourselves? And each of us is wonderful in our own way no matter what is going on.
Do not leave, please. I once had someone totally misconstrue (and misread) something I posted who then lit into me. There will always be the occasional misunderstanding or even overreaction because everyone here is in various stages of hope and/or despair (and frustration). And we have good days and bad days and sometimes say things we don't mean and regret, or we just say them in a way that is misunderstood. After I was attacked, I felt like you and dropped out for a bit. I've since resumed posting (here I am), and have gotten many "likes" and "helpful"s. So believe, everyone here has value. No one is perfect, especially with the challenges we face daily. So, stay.
Don’t leave the group or stop posting, your posts are positive and show us what a warrior you are! We post here to sometimes vent - and we are allowed - to get support from
Others in similar situations and to ask advice . And you post to offer support and give advice, not knowing the full story of the other person, you know only what they have shared!
Thank you for all your input and positive posts!
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I am not going to be made into the bad guy that made you leave this site. I was commenting on how I feel. You have every right, as everyone does, to express yourself . And try to help others. It is one thing we can all do to make this experience meaningful, while going through our many, individual, trials. You have every right to post your video. But you are hardly representative of most masectomy women I have seen. I think most would agree that you are gorgeous, boobs or no boobs. I am dealing with the fact that I have a malformed spine, and chest and rib cage. I was bullied by boys in adolescence. My B cup breasts, developing, rescued me. Now I look very bad, and disfigured. The surgeries that they have now can't be done on me. Anyway, every one should be able to feel free to express themselves, on this wonderful site. I am so thankful for it.