I am gpigford's wife. I appreciate all the advice everyone has shared even the things that were rough to hear. We have agreed no cancer talk this weekend. Of course I am anxious about surgery on the 16th. Just 1 week away. But I think this weekend needs to be about life and love. He did give me the charm and family cards the other day after my final pre-op visit. I lost my sister to Inflammatory Breast Cancer 19 years ago so and the pink ribbon has always meant something special to me because of what it meant to her during her 2 BC occurances. So I love it. I have done a lot of preparations myself but my husband is the logical thinker in our partnership so it is very much his character to reach out to find what I might need and make sure I have it. I have been reading and processing many posts on different threads, just wasn't ready to post myself. Again I am thankful for this group and the raw honesty all of you have shared. It is nice to know the many thoughts running through both of our heads is just the normal course of dealing with this disease. I have been praying for all of you and would welcome prayers from anyone who wishes. I believe positive vibes is the best way to go into the next phase. I am sure that the waiting for pathology and OncoDX results will be hard as the next phase of treatment final plans depend on those results. Thank you all again .