@gpigford, gpigford I'm happy to see this post! The anxiety you went through prior to your wife's decision was troubling. When I had my mastectomy 11/21, I had very little pain. I used the oxicodone once, the first night only. I was able to stay ahead of the pain with extra strength tylenol. Pain is relative and we all react differently. Listen to your wife. I walked around the house often to avoid any blood clots. I did get a few button down shirts from Goodwill , but didn't have trouble putting on a loose tshirt. I worked jigsaw puzzles with my son and his wife, read, crocheted a little and made meals several days a week. I kept as busy as my body would allow (short walks). Let your wife be your guide to know what she needs. Wishing you both the best recovery.