You are a very rare, caring & special person! Thank you for being a ray of sunshine esp. in this man's life!

As a guy w/a pending RARP & can say I'm a bit worried about loosing my 'manhood' & realize how much I've defined myself because of my virility & suspect many guys do.

IDK but suspect radiation, hormones etc probably exacerbate this.

At the end of the day we need people who love & care - it sounds like you can be this.

I'd suggest gently asserting yourself & your feelings and see if he comes around.

Conversely, be careful to protect your heart as well - that you don't get sucked into an unhealthy relationship.

JMHO - good luck!