Thank you @colleenyoung ,I live in a different state but only about 3 hrs away . I did have to ask him directly if the prostate cancer had spread into his bones I reminded him about how bad he was complaining about his hip and leg we're waking him up out of his sleep and a lot of pain. I remember him complaining about that I'd say 8 months ago but when I asked him about it spreading the possibly the reason it broke his femur bone ? The only thing he said was he didn't know when asking if it's spread I don't know I'm not sure. So that's when I decided to back off the conversation and talk about something else cuz I need to know he was confused or didn't want me to know I had no idea that his wife was sitting right there next to him listening to our conversation. She text me the next day that I ought to be ashamed of myself for asking him the question like that but when I asked her before this she told me no is not spread which I don't believe her because he wouldn't be sitting where he's at right now. She also said to me that she did not want me coming there and if I wanted to see him to let her know that he'd be at the rehabilitation center then when they release him she has hospice lined up for at home to handle the rest 🥺 She is being very selfish & controlling . I just don't want to upset my DAD. I'm going to pack up and hit the road to go see him today . Hopefully everything will go smoothly as possible. Thank you and I will keep you posted.