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I am 65 and my husband of 30 years is 61. He just learned of diagnosis this week. It is a gut punch. He had surgery summer of 2020 and thought he was done with this. Not so lucky. We have not been intimate and I feel like he is angry with me. Now it is really going to be a difficult road.He is shocked, we do love each other. Finances have been strained. But with God grace we will get through it. I am so sad he has to go through this, but he will and he is a positive man. Thanks for letting me share.
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Wow, with the exception of my wife being a tad younger than me, sounds like you are the demographic equal of my wife and I. I also had the surgery then had to go down the radiation route.
I don't believe he's angry with you, it's just anger in general that's part of the acceptance process. I know I went through a period where EVERYTHING pissed me off for about a month to six weeks.
He's likely also feeling very frustrated that he can't be intimate. Maybe somewhat embarrassed even and that angers him. I don't know if you can address it, but, my wife and I had to get a little creative. When I felt like I was of use to her sexually, it made me feel a lot better. Initiating in the other direction might be difficult, perhaps someone else here can offer some advice.
Good Luck going forward!