Hi @kennedyakelly, it’s really difficult and confusing when these things happen. I have 10 adult nieces I’m a few years older than and so they’re comfortable asking me these questions.
What I would say to them is to first talk to your partner and explain it just the way you did here…but calmly without the tears. You are partners in celibacy and soon life so you have to be able to problem solve together. Second, make a follow-up/sick visit with your gy or a counselor and if you explain the issues as you did here, they will give you tools to figure out how this may have happened.

Good luck and I really hope you feel better. It doesn’t seem like it now but every experience is a learning opportunity and some hurt. It helps to befriend women a little older than whatever age group you’re in because we as women give better personal experience advice when it’s in private.