My dad was totally resistant to my mom’s help with showering/changing clothes. She finally went with a local home care agency that provided an aide once weekly. The agency required a 3 hour block, my mom would take a walk, go to the grocery store, go out on the porch and read. The aide would do anything related to hi care (shower,laundry, make a snack or meal). My dad was much more accepting of the aide’s help. You could compare prices with the franchises (Home Instead, etc) and the Home Care agencies. Having a 3 hour break weekly might really help your sense of well-being.