Forgot to mention- try the “log roll technique” to get him up to sitting, have him roll onto his side (you hold elbow to elbow and give him a gentle pull if needed), once on his side, guide his legs to drop over the edge of the bed- the weight of his legs going down will bring the rest of him up to sitting. Reverse for lying down, guide him to lie down on his side, he rolls to his back, bringing his legs up. My husband is very tall and I’m short- trying to help him to sit up by bending at the waist has proved spectacularly unsuccessful.:)