@pennypowell

I certainly admire your loyalty in caring for your wife. Is she currently being seen by a NET specialist? If not, this might be helpful. Also, a counselor might be able to help with her depression and inability to go forward with treatment.

As you said, "decision is hers" and while she has been through a lot of medical problems, seeing a counselor and/or therapist might be helpful to her and also to you.

Would seeing a therapist be an option for either of you?