Not ranting; quite valid expressions of some of the challenges, disappointments and successes.
Congratulations on your initial postop PSA.

My 90 day postop was 0.19; so disappointing and I just began combination 4 mos hormone therapy (Orgovyx) and 2 mos of radiation to pelvic floor (WPRT).

Surgery Aug 15 2022; Gleason 9 & 8s final postop pathology of prostate.

So I think that you are doing wll with the most important element; cancer control. Hoping your PSA remains undetectable.

ED function can return over months, and apparently years, so keep good thoughts. My surgeon's office recommended "exercising the function" 2/3 times a week. I'm 72 and penis is slowly coming back to life, so to speak.

Kegel exercises and walking are good therapy for regaining continence control. I went to a few PT sessions and they were helpful.

Best wishes for continued improvement.