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Spouse with cognitive problems and finances
Caregivers: Dementia | Last Active: Dec 30, 2022 | Replies (290)Comment receiving replies
My wife has an appointment with a Neurologist. We have no idea what is wrong, but she has no cognitive skills left anymore. She cannot use the computer, nor the TV control and can barely use the phone. I am 77 and dress and undress her every day and it is more than I can do. I am older than she (70) and I am responsible for all of her care. Where do I get help for someone to come in and at least help her shower? I am exhausted all of the time. Please help me find some help, please.
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I’m so sorry you both are on this journey none of us want to take. Her Dr may be able to order Home Health care for her. It may just be for a limited time, but should give you time to seek other help. Like Scott, our local Area Agency on Aging has been a wonderful resource for us. There may also be a local support group of and for people on this journey. Since Covid, we meet via Zoom. Ours has been so encouraging to me and has a wealth of personal experience to share. Some are newcomers to their situation and others are much farther down the road. We learn from each other. One thing is certain…we can only do one day at a time. God’s Grace really is sufficient. He will see us through.
Hello Kim
Thank you for posting this plea for help. Reaching out to others is a major part of embracing the situation effectively. I have a wife with MCI (mild cognitive impairment), your wife may have that, but sounds much more advanced, perhaps even into Alzheimer’s, etc.
Mayo clinic has something called the ‘habi’t program. If you go onto their website and search, you may find that. they make workshop type deliveries in Phoenix, Florida and Minnesota. They also have the ability to connect with their professional people.
Stages of life are not always happy. There is a season and a purpose for all things. Keep your eyes upward focused
Kindly
Randy
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Hi @kimpalmer1 I’m Scott and I’m glad you found Connect.
I was my wife’s sole caregiver during her 14+ year journey. I know how exhausting the demands of caregiving are. We caregivers can only do so much!
Finding good quality, available, qualified, yet affordable, aides was a challenge all its own for us. Where and how to find them varies by state and often times even location within your state. There are Area Agencies for Aging, which might have some recommendations. Local hospice organizations here were a good resource for me here, but we are pretty rural. A lot of trial and error was our usual path, but we did finally find a couple good folks. I imagine the current labor market might make it more of a challenge, unfortunately.
What area you located in? Perhaps someone here on Connect has dealt with this in your greater area.
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