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Downsizing, To Move or Not to Move? That is the Question
Aging Well | Last Active: Mar 23 9:13pm | Replies (473)Comment receiving replies
Marilyn, my Mom was able to choose a residence with a "continuum of care" from independent to minimal assistance to full assistance. They had a related full care skilled nursing home, but she never needed that. We were able to add services as she needed (she wouldn't live with either my sister or me.) It was the best solution for our family. She started in a 2br apartment, and when she no longer cooked or did her own laundry, moved to a 1br. (This was after she and my Dad gradually downsized from 2story to 1story to an accessible mobile home, shedding stuff at every step. ) My in-laws stayed in their own home until they each needed skilled care - 7 years apart. There is a different path for each of us.
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Yes, that is true - there is a different path for each of us. I did not like the smallness of the rooms. I have mild claustrophobia and am afraid I will feel too closed in. I enjoy being quiet. I like to read and work on jigsaw puzzles. My guess is that they want the residents not to stay in their small rooms, but to be out playing their games. This is not for me at this time. I am still having a very difficult time with my husband's death, especially at night. Sometimes the anguish is so severe I can't even cry - just scream. I can do this in my own home, but not there. I am still cooking and doing laundry. In fact I went grocery shopping today as I am having a couple of friends over for dinner on Wednesday. I will be making everything myself. My fervent hope is that I can continue this way until the one morning I don't wake up.
Happy New Year to you all.